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Father Issues (3rd of 3)

In my last post I ended saying, “From all that Jesus says about His Father, it’s clear that He wants us to love and trust His Father as He does.”

A Father of Biblical Proportions

Many of us, however, have not found the help we are looking for in an invisible Father. We are troubled when our Father in heaven doesn’t answer our prayers in the time and ways we hoped He would. We’re quite sure that if our own dads, imperfect as they are, had 10,000 angels to help them, they would give us help that our Father in heaven has withheld. Too often we find ourselves echoing the familiar words of the psalmist and Jesus, “My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me?” (Psalm 22:1; Matthew 27:46).

But where did we get the idea that our Father in heaven should follow the script we write for Him? If Jesus was like His Father, then both are as unpredictable in action as They are unchanging in character. Jesus didn’t tell His disciples what they wanted to hear. He didn’t use His strength to do everything they wanted Him to do. He had plans they couldn’t understand. Yet, in the end, in spite of all of this unpredictability, Jesus revealed a Father who gave them more than they could have hoped for.

In hindsight, Jesus’ friends could see how faithful He had been to them. When they thought they were going to die in a storm (Mark 4:37-38), when it seemed as if He didn’t care (John 11:1-6, 32), and when all hope seemed lost, Jesus had surprised them by showing them His Father’s ability to still a storm, raise the dead, and replace despair with hope.

This Father who revealed Himself through Jesus is not like the dads who let us feel their biceps, lifted us to their shoulders, and showed up to support us at school events. But He is also not the problem and mystery some of us think He is. Jesus is just like Him, and He is just like Jesus.In heart and personality, Jesus is exactly like the Father, who “so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son” for us (John 3:16).

This is different than thinking that Jesus came to protect us from His Father. When we see Jesus dying for us, interceding for us, and allowing us to use His name to approach the Father, it’s not because the Son is more merciful than the Father. It is because the Father and Son are in perfect agreement about Their love for us.

And so we pray: Father in heaven, we need to get past the issues with our own fathers that have clouded our trust in You. While there is so much about You that we don’tunderstand, please help us to see all that You want us to see about Yourself in the walk and in the words of Your Son. —Mart De Haan

So now, what are you thinking?

Don’t feel limited by the following. But here are some questions I’d like to hear some comments on:

Why do you think God has shown Himself faithful while remaining so unpredictable?

Why do you agree or disagree that it helps to see Jesus coming in behalf of the Godhead– rather than intervening to protect us from an angry Father?


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8 Responses to “Father Issues (3rd of 3)”

  1. abalderama says:

    This is personal because I too have said the familiar words, “why have you forsaken me”. He never has, I am just impatient for his answer. I think he has shown himself faithful in the way that he maps out his answer and in fact does answer my prayer and so much more. It’s true when you hear that the Lord has a sense of humour. Our thought process in figuring out our own problems can never measure up to his plan.

  2. abalderama says:

    I agree that Jesus coming in behalf of the Lord is because they are one and desire us all to believe in them. The Lord would like all people to come to him prior to his return.

  3. maureenb says:

    Random thoughts/responses to interesting questions:

    Justifiable anger belongs to God alone; He alone is capable of justly experiencing it…wielding it. His use of anger is always for our benefit; never for His glory. Yes?

    Mart, thank you, yes, Jesus is as His Father.

    I came to God through Christ. For me, God was once an imponderable mystery; yet truly, though I know His Son through scripture and though His Spirit indwells me, He still remains an unpredictable, yet ever faithful, mystery. I am content with God’s unpredictability. I am His–to do with as He chooses; I made a decision for Him, & He for me. Scripture reveals His faithfulness toward His people–time and time again.

  4. Sheliya says:

    Why do you think God has shown Himself faithful while remaining so unpredictable? A: In difficult circumstances, it is not God’s faith that is tested – It is ours. When God took the Israelites out of Egypt, He could have taken them on the shorter route but he took them on a longer route so that He may know what was on their heart. God’s faithfulness is a constant factor. Ours is a variable and is tested by His unpredictability. Peter knew Jesus as the Christ but when He was arrested and put to shame on the cross…this was totally beyond the comprehension of one who spend so much time with Him. We who walked with the Lord and had been tested faithful cannot lean back on our laurels…in hulility we have to keep walking. God’s unpredictability keeps us seeking Him and we develop a living relationship with Him. Trust the Lord with all your hearts and mind, Lean not on your own understanding…God is literally saying…Trust ME the Great I AM…I am not predictable. Thank you for the edifying question. I learn from it.

  5. Darlene says:

    I think of God as a spirit which is what He is, and think of Jesus as a human being. They can both be communicated with, but I think Jesus is easier to talk to, ’cause He speaks to us. I often wonder, though, when we speak to Jesus, are we speaking to God, too. I love God, though, for giving us His only Son to be an offering of forgiveness, and showing us the way to God, and to heaven.

  6. martdehaan says:

    It seems like so many insights of the Bible come with a built-in tension and balance. For example, the Father and the Son are One, yet distinct; both show themselves faithful– while remaining, in so many ways, unpredictable.

  7. searching for truth says:

    If I understand, the point being made is that Jesus is the same as God the father. I think it’s easier to see Jesus as loving and accepting. The father is the one who destroyed people if they didn’t please him, Jesus is the one who died. The father is the one who sends you to hell if you don’t believe in him. If they truly are the same, father and son, then you can’t choose one and not the other? Why do you have to use Jesus name to approach the father?

  8. mpoteet says:

    In what ways does it help or not help you to see that to know Jesus is to know the Father?

    It helps, particularly in remembering the strengths of the Trinity – Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

    What if any danger do you see in identifying the Son so closely with the Father?

    We need to remember that in accepting Christ as our Savior, we are saved. That is one of the main points in the Bible that strongly distinguishes the New Testament from the Old Testament. Our relationship with Jesus is critical in its importance.

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