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Thankless Moments

What if our present circumstances don’t leave us feeling honestly grateful?

When it comes to giving thanks, should we just just “do it” whether we mean it or not? What if the truth is closer to, “I never expected to be surrounded with such feelings of loneliness, fear, anxiety, confusion, and unanswerable questions?”

Seems as though, at the Bible’s own center and heart, it addresses such realism in what we call Psalms (the Songs of Israel). Doesn’t take long to see that these songs don’t regard giving of thanks as simply “the right thing to do.” (or even just a matter of obedience”.)

The songwriters of Israel often express so many different emotions, before finding reason to give thanks.

Or if they do begin their songs with a call to give thanks, as in Psalm 105:1, the songwriter goes on to show that he’s not going to just leave his singers with the challenge to “give thanks”. Instead, the author asks us to consider thankless moments and periods in history that give perspective to  countless dark and bruised emotions:

Psalm 105:16 [The Lord God] called down famine on the land and destroyed all their supplies of food; 17and he sent a man before the Joseph, sold as a slave. 18They bruised his feet with shackles, his neck was put in irons, 19till what he foretold came to pass, till the word of the Lord proved him true. 20The king sent and released him, the ruler of peoples set him free. 21He made him master of his household, ruler over all he possessed, 22 to instruct his princes as he pleased and teach his elders wisdom.”

Today, Egypt is once again in the news as that nation tries to find it’s way forward in a difficult period of reconstruction after the “undoing” of the Arab Spring. Yet in the process of a nation’s fears and anger about what many are calling the coup of President Mursi, there is a legacy to be remembered.

As Psalm 105 recalls, long ago, when God sent a famine on the land of Egypt, he also used the betrayal and enslavement of one of Jacob’s sons.

Joseph’s separation, terror, enslavement, and “bruising” abandonment must have come with countless moments of dark days and long nights. It would take a long time before Joseph’s God-given wisdom and plan brought smiles to the citizens of Egypt. Yet eventually, his troubles would help the world to see that the God of gods had chosen the family of Abraham not only for the honor of a chosen people, but for the good of Egyptian neighbors. It would take even longer to show how Joseph’s slow rise from the pit of his betrayal to Pharaoh’s most trusted assistant, would become part of another servant who would suffer far more for the sake of the whole world.

So how does all of this relate to our struggle to find reason to honestly thank God in the middle of “thankless moments”?

Is it coincidence that when we read and think about the dark days and nights that the God of gods has written into the history of the world, that strength seems to slowly flow into our veins? As we begin to think about that same God waiting for us to ask him to help us to believe, to trust and ….to wait on him… is it just a coincidence that we find ourselves quietly beginning to sense a grace that enables us to think of him as greater than our weakness, and as infinitely wiser than what we can’t yet see or feel?


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  1. Mart De Haan says:

    Looks like Steve from WV may have been thinking along the same lines as we were both writing at the same time about yesterday’s subject.

    Because his comment came up before my post, am copying it here:

    From Steve WV

    I was wondering this morning how many feel and think after praying for something so long and so determined only to have the exact opposite of your desires occur?

    Is there a *thank you* in your reaction or only disappointed confused silence?

    There is just so much heartache and unhappiness in the world today it makes me wonder if there was ever a time when people were content and happy.

    It seems that contentment and happiness are only fleeting moments that come sporadically and are just enough to keep us going.

    It has been a long dark struggle for man since his departure from the *garden*; weary and tired it is only in the ashes of defeat that one can find the true meaning of hope, for no mater how dark the day Jesus keeps hope alive…for that I am eternally *thankful*.

    Steve

  2. oneg2dblu says:

    Mart… I do not know why it took the darkest moment in my life to bring about all to light, but God chose that moment to take my life long head knowledge of Him and impress it upon my heart. Thanks that followed have never stopped as He calls me to Himself daily, and it is from my heart and not my head, do I respond.
    The fact that I get to be with Him daily is beyond my ablity to comprehend, so I just thank Him, that I get to thank Him, and that He allows me to be called His. Gary

  3. foreverblessed says:

    Mart wrote “In the dark hours…that strength seems to flow into our veins ”

    Psalm 27:14 has taken a long time for me to realise its deeper meaning. When you wait on the Lord, it means that God is not answering what you have asked for. In years past I thought I had to be strong myself: meaning buckle up! But it has a different meaning:
    While waiting, being faithful in hoping in God: our strength is slowly growing, because His strength flows through us, bit by bit.
    I have learned this myself while having to cope migraine. After several years now of waiting I see the difference in strength, His strength being formed in me. What a big suprise, what a blessing this is!

  4. foreverblessed says:

    See also Isaiah 40:31

  5. foreverblessed says:

    Sorry, another one: Isaiah 41:10
    Isn’t that a beautiful verse, God is surely giving us strength. it is a promise. We can stand on His promises, if we have faith in Him, and follow Him.

  6. poohpity says:

    If God wants us to be open and honest with Him and knows our hearts, giving thanks when we do not mean it wouldn’t that be a lie? I think the problem comes when we consider the things we do not have rather than what we do have. I always admired Joseph because no matter what circumstances he was thrown into he made good use of the time and situation because he trusted God.

    Yesterday my day and the evening before if it could go wrong it did till I was in tears by 2pm. I usually invite all those who do not have family into my home for Thanksgiving but I was financially and physically unable to do this so another neighbor and I went in together and did it at the community center but guess who did not want to come, my children. You have to understand that my health and standing cooking do not go together very well actually the pain gets so severe I wish I could amputate my body. To make a long story short after all was cleaned up the Lord brought to mind, after feeling sad because my children did not come, what our lives would have been like if the Lord was not in them.

    After thinking on this I considered the alternatives and it sure wasn’t pretty, drugs, possible prison, maybe I would have had them taken away from me by now. The rejoicing in my heart from just a little time spark kept growing and growing to where my thankfulness became so heartfelt. This is what I have to work with, so do it. This is what the circumstance are so be so very grateful because it could have been worse.

    Paul sat in prison after being beaten with rods, singing hymns and praying. (Acts 16:22-25 NIV) I do not know about you but I know what being beat up feels like and then to be in chains I do not know if at one time I sure would not have felt like singing but having a trust in God for all circumstances sure can bring joy to anyone’s heart if we just take the time to consider the alternatives.

  7. Mart De Haan says:

    Sounds real, Deb/Pooh. Thanks for letting us look over the shoulder of your hard fought victory.

  8. BruceC says:

    Your topic Mart is very good in this day and age and our present culture.

    Will pray for you pooh. My wife has had a very tough time over a period of many years with her family relationships. She has been ridiculed, blamed, used, ignored, made fun of, etc. for her faith; which does not line up with that of her family. This past holiday was gain another hard one for her; and yet she shows her thanks to the Lord for what she has in Him even though she hurts.

    When I think of “thankless” I think of our culture of materialism and instant gratification; and the lack of “thanks” toward God. Saw reporters asking folks on the street etc. about what they were grateful for and didn’t hear God’s name or the name of Christ once. Wow! But not surprised. Can’t get the memory of that women a few days after Sandy whining about no cell phone connection where she lived(with little damage by the way) while others lost everything they owned. The topic also made me think about how the culture has crept into the American church in many ways too. Name it and claim it, the expectation that God answers right away and it is always yes, and other beliefs that have no contextual base in the Word. Let’s face it; as a nation we are spoiled, are we not? I love this land but our culture and lack of faith in the Lord is destroying it.
    There are times that the human nature in even the best of us does not want to say thanks for the times we are in, or what we endure. But then somehow the Holy Spirit guides us to that place where we realize that all we have is an undeserved blessing and that if forgiveness through Christ is all God did for us; then we have more than what deserve and in that we should thank and praise Him.

    BruceC
    Soli Deo Gloria!

  9. remarutho says:

    Good Evening Mart & Friends –

    I am praying for you, Pooh, Steve, Bruce and all whose lives touch mine, enduring physical and emotional pain. Thanksgiving is a challenge in the face of the despair in places like New York and New Jersey where lives and homes are permanently ruined after a couple of days of chaos.

    “Katrina,” “Rita” and “Sandy” will all be retired from the weather service roster of storm names, for the sake of lost lives and houses reduced to rubble. Got to hear from a New York poet who is out helping her neighbors on Staten Island, where the devastation is massive. She, as a citizen of that place, weeps as she hopes that those who choose to remain in the area, having lost everything, will truly be community as they slowly and painfully rebuild.

    It seems to me we need one another. As for me, when family members leave me, I draw near my brothers and sisters in Christ. It has been a long journey to release my citizenship in a town that has a “Welcome to…” sign at either end, and put my hope and service into the city of the King. Jesus has shown me great compassion and mercy. The apostle Peter says:

    “All the prophets from Samuel on down said the same thing, said most emphatically that these days would come. These prophets, along with the covenant God made with your ancestors, are your family tree. God’s covenant-word to Abraham provides the text: ‘By your offspring all the families of the earth will be blessed.’ But you are first in line: God, having raised up his Son, sent him to bless you…”

    I pray for a real Jesus-transformation in me and in all the peoples – all families, including my own.

    Blessings,
    Maru

  10. fadingman says:

    My wife and I have been visiting relatives in NYC, upstate NY, south Jersey, and tomorrow in NC. My parents live in NJ and they were spared the power outages and damage – something to be thankful for.

    Yet, even if they lost all (or I lost all), there would still be reasons to be thankful (Romans 8:28 for example). It might be difficult or even virtually impossible for any of us to see those reasons, but I think we’re called to be thankful to God as an exercise of faith. God is good, loving, and in control regardless of appearances. Everything He does or allows works out for our good and His glory in the long run.

  11. dja says:

    Good Morning to all,

    I have not been writing, but I have been reading and also praying for you. Life in our household has been busy and at times my heart has been anxious and tense over various situations, but the Lord has continually brought me to that place of rest and trust as I wait on Him (Psalm 46:10).

    I wanted to share a story from the past about having trouble being thankful. While there have been these times, this one time stood out in my memory.

    I was in and out of the hospital a couple of times with intestinal pain. They determined that I needed to have surgery to remove part of my intestines. I was admitted again and could only have liquids (which had been my diet for about a month), but then after 4 days, they determined that I needed protein before having this major surgery. Since I couldn’t eat meat or any solid foods, they prepared this protein in a red jello. Now, I had been eating jello everyday which was hard because I’m not a fan of jello, but this stuff was a hard rubbery jello that I had to chew and swallow. It was so bad that it was making me gag as I tried to eat it. As I sat on the edge of that hospital bed, staring at that horrible plate, with tears rolling down my face, I cried out to the Lord and said, “Lord, I know that I need to be thankful for everything, but I’m having an awful time giving thanks for this food.”

    As I finished praying and started to try again to eat this stuff, a familiar face came into my room. It was a lady from my church. I didn’t know her well, but she said she worked as the head dietician at the hospital, and when she saw my name on the list of patients, she thought she would come up and check to see if it was who she knew. Then she looked at what was in front of me and said, “Is that how they sent this up? Give me that-I’ll be right back!” When she returned she had the same mixture but she had made it into a frothy that I could drink with a straw. Now the taste still was awful, but I didn’t have to chew it, and I could swallow it fast:-) I was so overwhelmed that the Lord cared so much for me in even this trial that was so
    small compared to what others suffer.

    I have tried to write these things down over the years because I believe it is good for us to leave these wonderful true stories to our children and grandchilren. What always amazes me is that the Lord has the answer before we even call out to Him. Sometimes, it’s not a physically seen answer, but rather a peace and calm within and an understanding and a reminder as Pooh said. It’s like He changes our whole way of looking at something. It is truly amazing. 1John 3:1 speaks volumes: “How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!”

    Please know that I do pray for you all.

    Colder today and a few snow flurries in NEPA.

    ~Della

  12. poohpity says:

    Della, you also received an attitude adjustment. I can not tell you how many times in a day that I need one and thank God He is willing, ready and able to give them. :-)

  13. BruceC says:

    Della,

    Sorry; but I chuckled reading that story of you in the hospital looking at that plate of food. I pictured it in my mind and could not help it! It reminded me of myself at times and in similar situations.
    There are times in all of our kives that we have those “Why me God?” moments. Sometimes tha answer comes quickly, sometimes years later. Some maybe not till we get Home. But even though the answer can be humbling; it comes from the hand of a loving Father.

    pooh,

    Like your use of attitude adjustment for direction or discipline; which ever the case may be.

    31 here but very damp and gusty and it bites right through ya!

    God Bless All,
    BruceC
    Soli Deo Gloria!

  14. SFDBWV says:

    Would guess that most of us have been fairly preoccupied during this Thanksgiving holiday period, I know I have.

    Glenna’s daughter from North Carolina came for the long weekend period and having her here has been very comforting for Glenna.

    Matthew continues to lose weight in spite of a nice dinner Thursday he still lost 5.6 pounds this month. He was disappointed as he wanted to lose more and thought he should but reluctantly has agreed that losing 95.4 pounds this year is still acceptable for him.

    Remembering that very entertaining movie “The Princes Bride”; there was a quip from our hero “Lesley” as he won the skirmish between he and Iago Montoya; “Get used to disappointment”.

    It is one of those wonderful talents good writers have to express truth in their stories as a way of extending realism.

    With the exception of Solomon I know of no other character given in Scripture that just got everything they wanted in life handed to them with God’s blessings.

    It is clear to me that God teaches very hard to accept life lessons and the biggest one is “Getting used to disappointments”.

    Matthew asks me every day several times a day, “Why do I go on?” My answer is most often always the same. “You go on because of love”. It is one of those answers that don’t explain but is understandable.

    Life for most of us is an unhappy experience and perfectly understandable is the question “why do we endure?”

    “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for the evidence of things not seen.” (Hebrews 11:1)

    Without faith live would be very bleak, without hope even worse.

    I have seen hope die and faith diminish; it is a sad hour in our life when we begin to expect disappointment rather than victory.

    The one thing I will always be grateful for from God is joy that surpasses understanding. That joy is the glimmer of hope that stays alive because of Jesus of Nazareth, His words and promises.

    A cold snowy morning in West Virginia.

    Steve

  15. BruceC says:

    Steve,

    How true about reality and how most go through disappointment most of the time as things don’t usually happen the way we would want. My wife just keeps getting one thing after another thrown her way. One of her older sisters and her husband drove up from Georgia the day before Thanksgiving to see their mom who is in a local home. My wife and I went to the home on Wed. as the sister was spending the whole of the Thanksgiving Day there with her. On the way in we saw her other sister (the older one is staying at her home). This is the one that does not get along with my wife. She said a slight hi to me from a distance; looked at my wife and kept walking eyes to the ground never saying a word. My wife was hurt very bad. She is also did not call or email my wife to invite us over Thanksgiving like she did everyone else. This we heard from another sister. So my wife was too hurt to go over and see the one from Georgia to avoid any problems with the other.
    But the one from Georgia never called(which is par as she hasn’t returned calls or emails from weeks ago.) This is the same sister that my wife gave several thousand dollars to years ago when we were in better finances; when they were almost on the street. My wife has suffered so much from her family I am amazed she finds a way to handle it. But that is where the Lord comes in. She knows the real reason for her suffering goes years back when she accepted Christ and no longer attended the preferred church of the family.
    So you are so right Steve about reality being mostly disappointment in this world. But we have a hope many do not and that gives us joy that they cannot understand.

    Off to church! God Bless All!!

    BruceC
    Soli Deo Gloria!

  16. poohpity says:

    This weekend Charles Stanley did a wonderful teaching on adversity being either a burden or a bridge to a closer, intimate relationship with God. On In touch dot org.

  17. poohpity says:

    Mart, I broke the rules but that was such a blessing to me I thought it may help others to look at adversity with a different attitude and may benefit them in their relationship to God and each other. It may help to bring a thankless moment to a very thankful heart. I will understand if the site gets deleted.

  18. poohpity says:

    In love, Rehab ;-)

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