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Angry with God?

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Is it safer to take out our anger on people or God?

If we discover that we really do have a beef with the Almighty, are we wise to keep our feelings to ourselves?

The Hebrew Scriptures give us plenty of examples. Let’s think about a couple.

Jonah was a prophet who was angry with God for showing mercy to the repentant population of Nineveh (Jonah 3:10-4:4).

God responded by asking Jonah twice whether he had a right to be angry (4:4,9). Does that imply that Jonah should not have expressed his anger toward God, the vine that left him without shade, or the Ninevites that he so hated–if that’s the way he really felt?

Is there any indication in Jonah’s story that he made a mistake in letting on that he had issues with God?

Then there’s Job. Some have tried to portray him as someone who said only good and honorable things about God after getting hit with a series of horrific losses  (Job 1:21-22), (Job 2:10). But after 7 days of groaning and restrained words, a flashes of anger broke out between Job and God… and then between Job and his comforters… as they tried to defend God and themselves.

Was Eliphaz right in confronting Job for venting his anger against God? (Job 15:12-13)? Did God later punish Job for expressing anger with heaven? (Job 42:7)

Job was angry not only with the friends who accused him of something something he didn’t do (Job 4:7-8). He also accused God of doing what God had not done to him. He was angry with God for not giving him answers, for withholding justice from him,  for treating him as an enemy, and for shooting arrows of distress into him (Job 6:4).

My guess is that God can handle our anger, and for many reasons would rather have us express it– than to deny or stuff it. Even if our emotions are not “right”, am thinking that the better part of wisdom is to get them out in words–telling him exactly what we are thinking and feeling (since he already knows)…

Seems to me that Job had God’s favor not only in the beginning of his story… but at the end. Jonah’s story, on the other hand leaves us hanging as to whether he ever comes to his senses… (Jonah 4:11)

 

 

 


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  1. remarutho says:

    Good Morning Mart & Thinking People –

    It is helpful to shout out to God – or even at God – in my agony. It occurs to me we dwell in a fallen world. When I get to feeling I am being severely tested or chastised by the Lord, I pray for the insight to see the true source of my misery and extreme challenge. I do not always get an answer from God. One of the best sources of strength and perseverance is “Jesus Loves Me.” Serious theological exploration may be ongoing – but devotion to God depends on holding fast to “Jesus Loves Me,” which is some of the most profound thinking about God.

    You wrote:
    “Job was angry not only with the friends who accused him of something – something he didn’t do (Job 4:7-8). He also accused God of doing what God had not done to him. He was angry with God for not giving him answers, for withholding justice from him, for treating him as an enemy, and for shooting arrows of distress into him (Job 6:4).”

    The anger and accusation were both only on the human side in this time in Job’s life. Jonah also was resentful and prejudiced against the despicable Ninehvites. I am assured that God does not engage in accusation of any kind. It is good to rail at God! Who else in the whole universe will hear the resentment, the suspicion and the fears of our human hearts with loving calm? The Lord may not give explanation immediately – but the answer rests in God’s sovereign and amazing love.

    Simple – not easy – for me at least!

    In Him,
    Maru

  2. foreverblessed says:

    Simple, not easy…
    The best part of wisdom is, as you say, to tell God exactly what we think. But what do we think exactly? That is hard to find out. When things go over ad over in my mind, I try to catch them, o boy, how busy I was in trying to unwind them.
    It is a skill to be learned to take these thoughts, all of them, as they are, all winded up, to God.

    The next part of wisdom is to wait,
    wait on God,
    God can handle our anger, but I have to learn to wait for His action.
    The meaning of this Psalm just lately came to me: in the waiting I am formed, and get stronger in God:
    Psalm 27:14

  3. Toml5169 says:

    I went through a period of about 13 years very angry with God. I went to church and even engaged in teaching and some preaching, but I was dead inside. The reasons for my anger are not important but I started to honestly open back up to God and life itself when I substituted for our Pastor at a men’s morning devotional at Portland Rescue Mission. After engaging men who were being open and honest with their relationships and struggles, I felt alive! In fact I called my wife and daughter immediately after this time and told them “I felt more alive in that 30 minutes tha I have in 12 years”. Four years later after continuing to volunteer at the mission I quit my job in construction management and took one with the mission in reconstruction development. What I now know is God desires relationship with us period. Relationships are at times confusing, frustrating, difficult and at times make us angry with one another. The goodness and blessings found in deep relationships are worth the effort; both with God and with each other. When I was angry with God I died within bit when I began opening up to relationship again I found God waiting patiently and lovingly to start rebuilding our relationship. Yes it not only alright in my mind to express our anger with God but healthy. “Be angry but do not sin and let the sun go down on your anger.” If you do allow the sun to set on your anger with every sunset you die a little inside. Funny coincidence about me going to the Rescue Mission; it was the first place I ever gave a testimony a few weeks after being saved at age 18. Little did I know then that the same place would rescue me from the depths of darkness fueled by anger some 35 years later.
    Be blessed and engage in relationship today, even if it means expressing your anger to God or a loved one. Just don’t leave it inside so you are able to enjoy the sunset.
    In Him
    Tom

  4. joemk says:

    Tom, you just hit the nail on the head. Your story greatly resembles the story of one of our pastors who faced with a tragedy (the death of a child at birth) got so angry with God that he could not continue his relationship with God. he withdrew and as you testify, continued dying instead of growing. Like you, God continued to seek him and God eventually found him and showed him that he(pastor) had allowed his anger “to separate him from the love of God.” The point is that while its ok to be angry and to express our rage at God, we must be careful not to let our anger separate us from God. Once we express our anger to God, he has a way of calming us down and showing us that he is in control of things. Be blessed everyone.

  5. poohpity says:

    Anger is a real deadly emotion. It causes more personal harm that any other emotion. It may cause depression, the need for revenge, hard hardheartedness, suicide, self pity, or alienation from others. That list is not all inclusive of the damage anger can do. It seems the bible addresses anger above any other emotion except love. Love seems to be the only emotion that can overcome anger.

    If God knows our heart then not expressing the anger to Him who is able to turn it around would be a mistake. People have equated unexpressed anger as a pot that slowly starts to boil inside with no release valve for the force of the steam to escape. If we can just imagine that happening inside a person then things can happen that may not bother anyone at another time in their life but because of the harbored anger anything can set it off.

    After you have ran a car for many miles just try and take the radiator cap off or when cooking with a pressure cooker and not releasing the steam it will explode. I think that is why Jesus compared anger to murder in Matthew 5:21-22 because it does not harm another person it harms the person who is angry.

    There are 259 mentions of anger in the NIV of which some are the anger of the Lord which is a just anger. So if the Lord already knows about anger who better to help us deal with it than the Lord, who is so big, that telling Him releases the steam and He can deal with it while if left to ourselves we can cause harm to others and ourselves.

  6. davids says:

    Tom, thank you for your powerful story of grace. It really makes the subject personal.

    I was becomming worried about Steve from West Virginia, so I went back through posts I had missed. I am very sad that he decided to stop contributing. It doesn’t quite feel the same here. Fallen world we live in. Thanks to God for His grace.

  7. tracey5tgbtg says:

    I thought about this all day. Have I ever felt anger towards God? I really don’t think I’ve been angry at God. Worried, impatient, but not flat out angry. People, now that’s a different story. I also have episodes of general crankiness and mean-spiritedness. I like to pretend that’s caused by hormones, but I know better. :)

    I suppose it’s so much easier to feel angry with those who we deal with in the flesh day in and day out. Yet our battle is not really against flesh and blood.

    I also thought of Jesus saying, “whatever you did for the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.”
    Does that apply to being angry at them?

    Pooh – you are right,anger causes so much harm and the one harmed the most is the one who carries it with them.

    Mart – you said, “My guess is that God can handle our anger, and for many reasons would rather have us express it– than to deny or stuff it.” I agree 100%

    Maru – I really liked your comment: “Who else in the whole universe will hear the resentment, the suspicion and the fears of our human hearts with loving calm?”

  8. bubbles says:

    Awhile ago I asked for you here to pray for the salvation of a neighbor who has cancer. It does not look like he will be here much longer.

    Tonight those prayers have been answered. He called upon the Lord to be his savior and save him from his sins.

    Praise God!
    I have prayed for him for 36 years to come to know the Lord.
    Thank all of you who prayed for him.

  9. royalpalm says:

    Mart, you asked, “If we discover that we really do have a beef with the Almighty, are we wise to keep our feelings to ourselves?”

    To me, the more important question is, Is there a valid reason for anyone to be angry with God?

    I can understand a person who does not have a personal relationship with God get angry with a God whom he does not know. However, for a person who has understood the grace, mercy, and love of God be angry against Him is to me personally, the highest form of arrogance, rebellion, and pride.

    God spoke these words through Isaiah to the disobedient people in his time:

    Isa. 29:16 “You turn things upside down, as if the potter were thought to be like the clay!
    Shall what is formed say to the one who formed it, “You did not make me”? Can the pot say to the potter, “You know nothing”.

    To be angry with God, even just to question Him, to me, is to doubt His character, integrity, holiness and sovereignty. Somebody said that God is as big as you want Him to be. I wholeheartedly agree.

  10. remarutho says:

    Hello Bubbles!

    I confess to some times of frustration with the Lord that a few people I know seem so ready for salvation to break in on them — yet they hold out for all they’re worth! Grr! But I have been sitting here rejoicing with you for the victory you have witnessed. You wrote:

    “Praise God!
    I have prayed for him for 36 years to come to know the Lord.
    Thank all of you who prayed for him.”

    May the Lord give us ears to hear the beautiful songs of praise and rejoicing from the heavenly choirs! May we all bask in the Father’s smile! How often have we prayed, “Lord, please bring whatever ‘perfect storm’ is needed to convince this one or that one to receive the reconciling and cleansing love of Christ!

    Thanks for the opportunity to savor the moment of divine victory. Who knows the number who have watered, weeded and witnessed over the 36 years to bring in this harvest you have seen? May we soon see a plentiful gathering in — especially since the time seems so short…

    In Him,
    Maru

  11. florida7sun says:

    How can we be angry with God when He is “I AM WHO I AM.”

    Were we angry with God prior to being formed in our mother’s womb? Will we be angry once our earthly bodies return to dust? Has our flesh elevated itself above our Lord?

    Yes, there are moments of despair and despondency. Yet, by His grace, as we focus our sight on the cross of our Savior, all that is not of Him washes away and we are resurrected in newness of life.

    The faith of Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego in responding to King Nebuchadnezzar’s rage has always been a blessing to me. Our God is able to do all things, leading Nebuchadnezzar to eventually declare:

    “His dominion is an eternal dominion; His kingdom endures from generation to generation. All the peoples of the earth are regarded as nothing. He does as He pleases with the powers of heaven and the peoples of the earth. No one can hold back His hand or say to Him: ‘What have you done?’ – Daniel 3

    “… Now I, Nebuchadnezzar, praise and exalt and glorify the King of heaven, because everything He does is right and all His ways are just. And those who walk in pride He is able to humble.” – Daniel 4:37

    Jesus is worthy of all our honor, praise and glory. His love for us is fresh every morning and quiets the heart.

  12. Toml5169 says:

    Bubbles
    Praise God for the salvation of this man and for people like you who keep praying for someone for so long. Your faith has helped to make him well!
    A few comments on this subject of anger we are all discussing. I am truthfully envious of you who have never or cannot even conceive of being angry with or at God. As Poohpity said anger can be a deadly emotion and the key word is emotion. Our emotions cannot be judged by logic as they often don’t even make sense to us much of the time. However how we respond to emotions is something we can control to an extent. Those years I was harboring unresolved anger with God I now call the dark and wasted years of my life. I still find myself in some circumstances of life angry with God, however I no longer crawl into an inner abyss and die but instead go to Him for answers to the real source of my feelings. God never seems to mind my anger when we are still in fellowship over it and often I find healing from sources of pain I was previously blind to. The question for me isn’t should I be angry with God but what I do with it once I am. Like Pooh said in her post, He can handle our anger; the question is can we? Knowing that I van draw close to god to resolve my anger is far better than throwing a spiritual temper tantrum and hiding in darkness and despair. I wish in one sense I could reach a point I no longer have any anger issues with God, but until that time it is nice to know the two of us van work them out.
    Be blessed today!
    Tom

  13. bubbles says:

    This situation has not made me angry towards God.
    I am very confused. I do not understand, but then we don’t need to understand. God does not need to explain what he is doing. I am trying to do what He has said to do. But for 20 years, nothing has happened. How can doing what is right make one miserable? What is hurtful are people who dismiss how I am feeling and tell me what I am feeling is not real. I have never felt so lost and so alone in my life. God tells us to be content in whatever state we are in. I have tried. I don’t know how to do that any longer. This pain is worse than death.

  14. poohpity says:

    bubbles, you asked, “How can doing what is right make one so miserable?”. I guess it would depend on what one expects to get back for doing right. If we are doing right to get something like recognition, or an atta girl or to get something we want and we do not get it then it may cause depression or anger but if we are doing right because God will be pleased with us then that’s all we need to know. I guess it goes back to motive.

  15. bubbles says:

    oh no. It’s not for recogniton or atta girl. In doing what was right, I lost something precious. I did not realize how difficult and painful it would be
    to lose it. It hurts so much.

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